Can I just tell you...
...how much I hate the saying, "I have a friend that started the adoption process and got pregnant". Who are these people that this works for? I don't know any. What's the statistic on this? I am pretty sure that most people who adopt don't get pregnant. It's almost creul to tell someone that. Does it mean if I don't get pregnant while tring to adopt, I am a failure in some way, more that I already am? My mother didn't get pregnant when she was trying to adopt me, so she must be a failure too, right?
posted by Mel @ 2:12 PM
6 Comments:
At 4:45 PM,
Mony said…
Someone always knows "A Lady" who did this or that, tried X amounts of treatment, stopped trying altogether, adopted and then fell pregnant.
I think these stories are supposed to encourage us & urge us not to give up....but you're right, after a while they annoy the hell out of us "Failures".
Wishing you luck with this cycle! By the way, have you ever read JenEx (blog)? She's a great girl, who adopted.....and then fell pregnant! The irony was not lost on her! ...so I guess it does happen.
Also, thanks for dropping by my blog.
At 8:36 PM,
Maya said…
Well if you're a failure, then millions of other women like me, are also. Maybe they're just extremely lucky and didn't have "hard" factors for IF and it truly was about timing. Who knows, but none of us are guaranteed anything. So no matter how we have a baby or at whatever point, I am grateful.
PS There are also people that are are struck dead by lighting, but that doesn't mean it will happen to everyone while outside in a rain storm.
At 6:47 PM,
Sunny said…
I think it is an urban legend. There is no way this happens to all of us all the time. People are stupid!
At 10:25 AM,
tammy said…
Well, Mel I can say it happened to me. We sent in our paperwork for adoption almost a year ago for CAS then we started the private adoption process in January then we decided to adopt embryos because in December we were told we had a 1 in a million chance of concieving on our own. So really we just gave up and were on the waiting list for embryos. The next cycle boom... positive HPT. We were/are still shocked. I know it does not happen to everyone and I know just how lucky we are. If we had started the adoption processes would we still be pregnant right? Yes, probably, I really don't think one has anything to do with the other. But I too used to hate when people told me those stories too. You are not a failure. Your time will come and who knows.. .maybe this will be your time. I wish you lots of luck and can not wait to hear how this cycle turns out.
Hang in there.
Tammy
At 9:05 PM,
Barely Sane said…
Holy smokes.... do we have the same friends?? I'm starting to cut people off at the knees now - I see that phrase coming a mile away.
Best place I got that little tidbit of info? At the ADOPTION SEMINAR I went to a couple weeks ago from a girl struggling with IF!!! I had to shake my head.
Ya just gotta laugh tho. :)
At 3:58 AM,
Family Ties said…
UGh...I think the ENTIRE world (including the lady at the post office ) has said that to me! lol
I just shake it off...depending on who it is.
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